He’s my favorite escape. I get lost just in the thought of him. There’s nothing I’d rather think of than the way he looks at me, the way he touches me, the way I cant stop smiling when he’s in my presence. He says he’d be a mess without me, I cant even stand to think of what I’d be without him.
How to Develop Sexual and Romantic Attraction to People Who Are Good for You
Cultivating healthy attractions: The love-skill we’re never taught.
Published on May 13, 2012 by Ken Page, L.C.S.W. in Finding LoveWe can’t force our sexual attractions. Most of us have learned that the hard way.
Yet, there’s something profound that most of us have never been taught: Although sexual attractions can’t be controlled, they can be educated. This post will teach some ways to cultivate sexual and romantic attraction to people who are kind, respectful and available. Even if you’re relentlessly attracted to bad-boys or bad-girls, or to unavailable people, you can still develop this capacity!
These suggestions are not gimmicks, they are the lifelong skills of romance and intimacy—the very same skills you will use to keep passion alive in your next serious relationship. .
The Attraction Spectrum
Every time we enter a room of people, we make choices based upon our attractions: Whom do we notice? Whom do we pass over? Deb, a young stockbroker from Chicago, once told me, “You know, it’s almost magical. I can go to a party, and there’s always one person I’m most attracted to. If I date him, within a few weeks or a few months I discover he has the same emotional qualities as my previous partner. But when I first saw him from across the room, I had no idea at all that this would be true!”
very interesting
Words reduce reality to something the human mind can grasp, which isn’t very much. Language consists of five basic sounds produced by the vocal cords. They are the vowels a, e, i, o, u. The other sounds are consonants produced by air pressure: s, f, g, and so forth. Do you believe some combination of such basic sounds could ever explain who you are, or the ultimate purpose of the universe, or even what a tree or stone is in its depth?
— Eckhart Tolle (via stellesque)
We are very good at preparing to live, but not very good at living. We know how to sacrifice ten years for a diploma and we are willing to work very hard to get a job, a car, a house, and so on. But we have difficulty remembering that we are alive in the present moment, the only moment there is for us.
— Thich Nhat Hanh (via nephilnine)
not all poetry is written
nor does every poet write,
my lover is a poet who
turns skin to parchment
and composes sonnets
in the night.
They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered.
—
F. Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise (via sawthisthoughtofyou)
Guess who crossed my mind when I read this <3
Yeah, I might still be immature but at least I know life’s all about change. About things evolving, making yourself better. You’re too busy stuck in your own old ways to see that.
